It’s the state of bliss you think you’re dreaming..
I was chatting with Mie the other day and he told me something that caught my attention instantly. One of his close friends asked him:
Don’t you ever want to get another girlfriend for yourself, beside the one that you already have now? You have admirers here, you know.
Oh man. I’m downright sure that I’m capable to smack hard on his friend’s face if he asks something like that right in front of me. His friend suggested that since I am no where near him. WTF. I think it’s rather rude. No, I’m not going to write down everything on what he replied to that question. I don’t want to get too personal here. All I gotta say, his response made me smile all day. Haha.
Mie told me everything about the current love scenes in his uni. Loads of his friends have broken up with their long-distance relationship partner. Does that actually mean that long distance relationship won’t last? I’ve never experienced one but I don’t think so. As long as you trust each other and remain truthful, it may work out. I know, I may not be the right person to say this but I do believe that nothing is impossible.
Many of those who broke up might have their own reasons. For instance, after a while, they may start to feel lonely and begin to look around to search for what the relationship market has to offer. But looking at the world now, I don’t think that can be accepted as a reason. There are things called the telephone, e-mails and instant messenger, you know. It wouldn’t be the same as going out together but at least, you could still keep in touch with your loved ones.
People said (people, not I said okay
) that, long distance relationship won’t work out if it involves… sex. I dunno how true this could be anyway.
Anyhow, I don’t blame those who broke up due to the reason above. I would probably feel the same too but not to the extend of finding someone else. I believe in relationships that have strong faith with each other. And I hope this current relationship of mine will be the first and the last. (Why am I being lovey-dovey all of sudden? LOL.
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Well, while others will break up with their current partner since they can’t cope with long-distance relationship, there are some people who would simply cheat their partners behind their back. They get another partner. This applies to both genders, mind you. I’ve seen these kind of people in reality. This is the group of people that makes me really sick. WTH. Just think this way. What would your other partner feel if they ever find out about this? It’s surely going to be a heart-breaking moment.
As for me, I trust him with all my heart. I know I can.
P.s. Don’t tell me how stupid I am to trust a guy with such faith. I know what I’m doing and I don’t need your advice. Thank you!
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P.p.s. I miss him dearly. We rarely go out together recently. Once in a month. And it’s gonna be longer than that in the future. Being a
madmed student is tough!![]()
P.p.p.s. Mine isn’t a long distance relationship. But we’re in different universities and different part of Jakarta. I’m more to the east and he’s more to the west. LOL. And people, Jakarta is freaking big okay.
30 Responses for "Can long distance relationship last?"
Yeah.. I’m first? LOL..
I said matrix is sux bcoz I know I wont pass with a flying colours if I go there.. LOL
I do believe it will last.. but it require a great effort from each other!
:)
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nice new theme. pretty pretty
anyway, i DO believe in long-distance relationship. and honestly, i think it is better that way, until they get married
and not just sms, there’s something called mail. it’s fun to mail each other, you know ^^
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Saffa: Ohh.. Yeah, matrix is pretty tough. I wouldn’t dare to dream of getting a CGPA of 4 if I continue my study there.
Not that I get 4 flat for my foundation though. Haha.
MK: Thank you. All credits should go to this theme designer.
Yeah, sometimes, I think it better be that way too. Huhu. You actually got a point there and I fully understand that.
Yeah, I get what you mean. It would be nicer to get snail mail. Gotta agree with that.
I’ve been there and done that and yeah it didn’t work out for me. Nope it’s not about the sex or anything, there’s just to much disturbance on the other side..
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I’d like to point out that it’s not what I said. People told me. Heh.
An example of the “disturbance”:
A girl seduces this one guy when she already knows he got a girlfriend, and vice versa.
Urgh, I freaking hate that!
good luck mira.. :) btw,lupa nak minta no contact u laa…sy nak fly ke jakarta this tuesday..2 days left…btw,kalau nak tinggalkan no phone, email je eh… gieworks@gmail.com :D
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huhuh.. sakit hati bercakap pasal cinta
apa2 pun, kalau dua2 pihak ada kejujuran dan keserasian, boleh je kekal
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hoho… baru pulang dari anyer.
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i’m not an expert in relationship area…
BUT
YES IT CAN LASTS ^^
I know this couple who were together for 10 years and they lived in different states for few years..and they just tied the knot last year.
so yes yes yes.. IT CAN LASTS!
Don’t worry Mira, as long as you guys trust each other you’ll be fine. Have some faith in him :)
p/s - I’m not good in relationship either, kinda heartbroken right now.
personally la kan, seseorang tu takkan cari lain punye kalo partner dia tu memang “the one” for him/herself.
n takkan terjadi kalau sentiasa empathy pada org lain. haha. kalau sendiri kena baru terasa sakit kan.
:p
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You know I don’t have ANY relationship experience but I think long distance relationship can be last because they focus more on personality, faith and communication which are more important in a lasting loving relationship than physical contact and distance.
It is a problem if someone does accidentally fall in love with someone else even they already have someone, but sometimes it becomes a test of “who do you love more” and “who is it that you want to spend the rest of your life with.” And it’s just so easy for anyone to be hurt in that situation especially if it was something that wasn’t done on purpose but just progressed in that direction.
Please, prove to me that long distance works… I’m so sad and disappointed with poor examples I have all around me. Try to prove to everyone that not everyone is prone to infidelity… And you have my trust in maintaining it! *smiles*
Also, so sorry for saying this, it is mostly hard for guys to resist temptation. Just a piece of my experiences…
I wrote a blog post about long distance relationships previously, and I’d like to point out that I am having the same situation as you are, except that I believe my case is slightly OTT since we’re continents and oceans apart. And it’s been 7 years.
A long distance relationship is NO different from a proximal relationship. They BOTH require a great deal of work, excellent communication, patience, sacrifice and understanding.
What I don’t get is how these people would put sex as an excuse not to be together. IMHO “sex” is just a justification of their cheats, lies and betrayals.
Distance cannot and WILL NOT hurt a bond between two people that is based on mutual respect, trust, commitment and love.
I guess some LDR fail because they don’t have the testicular fortitude to make it work.
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Gie: Thanks!
Oh ye, sorry ye lambat email. Been busy lately. Dah email dah. Welcome to Jakarta! Hehe..
Shahkang: Eh, bunyi cam frust je nie.. Ye, sangat setuju. Kejujuran tu sgt penting dalam sesebuah perhubungan.
Huy Ming: Welcome back dear! Mesti letih sgt kan. How was Anyer? sounds like fun!
Asma: OMG!! 10 years? That’s so freaking long!! I’m so impressed! Yay! They’ve just proven that LDR can last! Yay!
Winterwish: Thanks!
I hope everything’s OK. Awww..what happen? Cheer up!!
Jaja: Yeah! I hope he is “the one” for me. I don’t want anybody else but him. Hehe. *jiwang* Ha, betol3! Kalau kena kat dri sndri, baru terasa. Bagus gak subject empathy nie. Boleh apply kat kehidupan seharian. Haha..
Dee: “…focus more on personality, faith and communication…” Gotta agree with this! Totally! About the accidentally falling in love with a person that you’re not supposed to. I guess, it’s possible. I’ve never seen such thing in reality though. Well, I think the problem is.. when you get so close to this one particular person (the opposite gender, of course!), you might fall in love with him/her secretly. I know it may be hard for that person to refrain that but he/she could always try to at least prevent him/herself for being too close to the other person. But then again, it’s gonna be very tough to do that without affecting their friendship. Oh man, this is so confusing. I suck at coveying my own opinions!
Princess Nakamura: Err.. I can’t prove that since mine isn’t really a long-distance relationship. At least, not right now. We’ll see in my 4th year where we’ll be in different continents. And also my final year. 1+1=2 years. Wish me luck! And thank you for your faith in me. Hehe.
Exactly! That’s what I’m scared of most. There are just too much temptations and I hope he wouldn’t fall for any of them. I know he wouldn’t! Yeah!
Chewbacca:Wow. 7 years! That’s so long! I totally agree with everything that you said. I guess it’s so true that both LDR and proximal relationship are the same. It isn’t really true if someone suggesting that proximal relationship will have higher chance to last longer than LDR. I’ve seen some PR before and some of them don’t last long. It all depends on the individual itself. Don’t blame the distance. It’s all up to us. We’re the ones who going to make it work. Yeah! *spirited*
Wow.. Thanks for all the great thoughts. I STRONGLY believe that LDR’s gonna work out after all. Yayness!
personally, i could not deal with lond distance relationships, but it works for some people.
I dont really believe in long distance relationship. partly because I’m going to feel lonely. another, is because I myself has never experienced it.
please, dont do sex, it will ruin the relationship, trust me.
long distance relationship requires high amount of trust. and I dont know if I could trust someone that much. and oh, dont trust someone, 100% honey. I’m just worried if you’ll get hurt.
take care.
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Patricia: It depends on the individual I guess. Not everyone can cope with LDR..
Aisyah: I dunno. I’ve never experienced it myself either. Well, I do feel lonely sometimes for not being able to meet him but that’s not gonna stop me from maintaning my relationship.
Sex before marriage itself is against our religion. Heh. I wonder why would a girl give everything to someone. She’d never know whether he’s gonna be “the right one” for her. WTH.
I know.. But I can’t help it. Probably because I just love him so much. There you go, a confession from a girl who is madly falling in love. Haha.
*sigh* This is getting too far. I’m praying that our relationship will last for life long.
LDR ke kalau every few weeks dpt jumpa kat TA?
tapi nak kata short distance pun xleh jgk..
rasanya ni kes MDR…
Medium Distance Relationship…
so.. I guess it can work..
Good luck!! =)
Think of the 4 lil cumi in future…
they’re gonna be so cumilicious… hahaha
I didn’t say that mine is a a LDR. Take note at my last ps.
No, not every few weeks okay Peter. Once in 2 weeks is also every few weeks right. But 4 weeks aren’t few weeks to me. It seems like ages. Haha..
*gedik*
The issue here isn’t about MY relationship. I’m just wondering why his friends banyak yg broke up ngan partner diorg di Malaysia. Oh well, later I’m gonna experience LDR too kan. T_T
And I’m gonna make it work. yeeeaaahhhh…
Haha.. cumilicious? so cute la weyhh.. LOL.
Princess Nakamura: I am a living example.. :)
we have only met ONCE, where we got to know each other. and it has been 8 months ever since. but it still last.
it is all about trust and honesty
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MK: Whoa. I’m impressed. Wish you both all the best!
tanakwagu: Yeah. I guess so. When it comes to relationship, it’s all up to the people involved. They’re the ones who’re gonna make it work.
Love is a battlefield.
Either at home or jauuuh di seberang. Sex is a NO-NO.
Look up for any signal…. young Mira, white flag can either from your side or the other side.
Cheers.
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Yeah. That’s true. Either you lose or win.
but of course everyone wants to win.
Definitely. Sex before marriage is haram di sisi agama.
I hope there won’t be any white flag risen.
Eh, white flag=surrender. Is it?
Haha.. silly me.
well.. what can i say.. long-distance-relationship..
i had it once..
and i can’t manage it perfectly..
so, i let her go..
if we’re supposed to be together..
then it will..
let time decide..
got things to focus here [study]..
lucky for the guy who ‘owned’ you..
hehehe
It depends on the person itself. Some people might have no problem at all in maintaining their relationship but some do have problem. Yeah, just let it flow naturally and if you guys are meant to be together, you will be in the future.
I believe it will last till the end.
me myself currently in a long-distance relationship.
we have been together for 2 years and a half, although we just see each other like three or four times in a year :)
you just need faith & honesty
ow, and good luck with your love. Hope it will last forever :)
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